For the Sake of Your Marriage, Take a Vacation

In exactly one month from today, Hubby and I will be on a plane headed to Prague and possibly Germany too! I can’t even begin to explain how much we need this vacation as the wait for this trip has been extremely close to unbearable. However, during this 365 day wait for a vacation, we’ve learned so much, not just about each other, but our marriage as well.

Our last mini vaca was to St. Augustine but our last REAL vacation was our honeymoon which was on December 2nd in 2015. While some people may not need a vacation in order to be able to continuously function within their normal routines, Kevin and I have learned that vacations are increasingly becoming a necessity in our lives.

Below is a list of things we have unwillingly but gladly learned from forcing ourselves to not give into the temptation of taking a less expensive vacation sooner so we didn’t have to wait any longer.

  1. We have “mastered” the idea of waiting for something we really want. I will admit that we almost gave in to the idea of taking a week off and going on a cruise. But by doing that we would have had to have given up on the idea of taking a trip overseas. Because you know, overseas trips are VERY expensive. I guess you could say that between the both of us, we have learned how to be more patient and wait for something we are over the moon excited for. (I put mastered in quotes because this year has been really hard and by saying we have mastered our sense of patience would be a lie. Although it’s gotten better, we’ve nowhere near perfected this ability.) 
  2. We have learned that we both get drained very easily and that the mundaneness of routine gets old real quick. We have agreed that after this trip, we won’t be saving up for a whole year again to take another vacation. In fact, we’ve already started to plan for our next one! 🙂 
  3. Whether we’ve done it subconsciously or not, we now consider vacations to play a crucial part in our marriage. We have found that we move too fast and we push ourselves too hard that we’ve become anxiety ridden about our future. It’s extremely unhealthy and we noticed that when we take vacations, just like everybody else, we tend to slow down and relax. We become happier and we stop and realize why we married each other in the first place. We talked about how we both slow down and begin to pay attention to each other and all the little traits that make each one of us so special to each other. 
  4. We have gotten way better at saving money. We have been able to diligently stick to our budget so we can take this upcoming elaborate vacation. Unfortunately, we had to miss out on some really fun times in order to do this for ourselves but we are praying that this wait and the continuous sacrifice of stuffing our wallets will all be 100% worth it.

Like I said before, this past year has been incredibly hard for the both of us. When things get hard we noticed that we tend to work against each other rather than together regardless if we’re working towards the same goals or not. Between his anxiety attacks and wanting knowing where we are going in life is really getting to us. We now know that vacationing is something we both need. It takes us away from reality, helps stop the anxious thoughts of trying to figure out where to go in life, and overall reduces our stress and tension like you wouldn’t believe.

We now know that vacationing is something we both need. It takes us away from reality, helps stop the anxious thoughts of trying to figure out where to go in life, and overall reduces our stress and tension like you wouldn’t believe.

I’m not saying everybody needs vacations in their lives to help ease the tension within their marriage. After all, I know some couples who put vacations on the back burner when trying to save money. Some have no interest in vacationing or seeing the world, some just don’t think vacations are important and some tend to find padding their wallets for a year and missing out on things is just too hard. Trust me is it. 

This post was just meant as some food for thought and maybe to brag that our HUGE TRIP is only 30 days away!! 😉

 

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